We Are Not Wasting Away To Nothing!
Many of my former obese friends will be able to relate to this post. I know a lot of people have gone through this and it can get so frustrating. What I'm talking about here is when others make remarks about your weight, as if they are concerned you'll waste away to nothing.
I'm going to have to deal with this again, as my dad and step mom visit from another state next week. I haven't seen them in a while and it seems like every time I see them, my step mom will say in concern, "you lost A LOT of weight!" And yet it's been over 6 years since I lost the weight. I'm the same weight, around 205 pounds from the previous times they saw me. But I will most likely have to argue, stating how I haven't lost anything since they last saw me, despite her insistence.
Why does it matter what my step mom thinks? Because she persuades my dad each time, privately telling him that I lost weight. It also matters because where was the concern when I was over 350 pounds? Very few people would approach me that I was eating my way to obesity. I am at a healthy 205 pounds; at 6'3" tall, this is borderline overweight (but I have muscle so not worried).
There is this thing that many of us have to go through, where we are viewed under a microscope. People might be jealous or maybe they are just trying to see something that's not there. Whatever the reason, it can cause a lot of anxiety.
Can those who weren't obese imagine what it was like to see someone for the first time after losing the weight? It's tough getting so much attention. It's positive most of the time, but then there's always a few people who will think you'll take a "diet" too far. Some people will be like watch dogs and try to knock you down.
So, despite the possible criticism I will most likely get when they visit, I know I'm on the right path. I know my lab work was awesome, I know I'm in the best shape of my life and I am happy with the way I eat. I am also medication free, unlike my dad and step mom!